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HAT Forum - "Family Estrangement"

  • The 519, Room 304 (check lobby screen to be sure) 519 Church Street Toronto, ON, M4Y 2C9 Canada (map)

Family Estrangement occurs when there is a temporary or permanent loss of a previously existing relationship between family members. It comes through physical/emotional distancing with little or no communication between the individuals involved.

There is little research about family estrangement although it is more common than we think. A 2014 study in the UK found out that: 1) at least 5 million people have made a choice to be no longer in contact with a family member; 2) 1 in 5 British people are directly affected by family estrangement; 3) 27% of the people surveyed said they know somebody who has cut contact with their family. Therefore, almost a third of UK population are either familiar or have experienced family estrangement. Moreover, a researcher in US found out that 1 in 10 mothers do not have a relationship with at least one of their adult children.

There are many factors that may lead to family estrangement, such as:

1. Emotional or physical abuse and neglect; 2. Differing expectations about family roles;

3. Differences in personalities and one’s values;          4. Mental illness or addiction;                  

5. Social support (in countries with robust welfare systems, people need their families less);               

6. Education (higher education levels in adult children are associated with higher rates of conflict);

7. Race (minority families tend to co-reside more); 8. Sexuality (disapproval of one’s sexuality);    

9. Religion;

Ø  Have you ever experienced family estrangement (or know someone in your family who have)? How did you feel about it? What was the reason of it?

Ø  Does society accept family estrangement?

Ø  Why is there a stigma surrounding family estrangement?

Ø  Should estrangement between two family members be eventually “fixed” or there are occasions when it is better to cut the contact permanently?

  Sources:

http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20190328-family-estrangement-causes
https://www.standalone.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/StandAlonePrevalenceRESEARCH3.pdf
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/20/well/family/debunking-myths-about-estrangement.html
https://www.verywellfamily.com/breakdown-of-family-estrangement-1695444
https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/a25381020/estranged-defintion/

Interesting Article
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/20/well/family/debunking-myths-about-estrangement.html